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Do you have problems in your life that 
you're not addressing that you could 

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solve and answer is yes,
and it's an easy thing to figure out.

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You sit on your bed one morning and say,
okay,

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there's some things that need to be done
that I don't want to do that I could do 

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that would make things better.
By the end of the day,

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what are they?
Well,

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your,
your conscience will deliver those 

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suckers no time flat now,
and then you might have to say,

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okay,
well how do I entice myself into doing a

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few of those and if you ask,
instead of trying to force yourself to 

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do it like you're a tyrant and a slave 
at the same time,

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you can usually negotiate with yourself 
so that you'll start to sort those 

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things out,
sort them out,

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put your house in order and then move 
out.

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Move on and out.

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Yes,
that's a freudian slip by the way.

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So it's important because the thing is 
you have a practice domain,

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right?
There are,

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there are things that are within your 
grasp that you could fix.

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Fix them and you'll learn.
You'll learn because it's harder than it

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looks.
Fix them and you'll learn how to fix 

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things and then something else will 
beckon as another problem that you could

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fix.
You know,

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you all have your problems.
What does that mean?

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Like there's an infinite number of 
problems in the world.

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Some of them happened to be yours.
Why is that?

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I don't know exactly,
but you have your problems.

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Great.
Solve them.

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You know,
one of the things I learned as a 

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therapist,
every therapist has to learn this 

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because one of the things you wonder 
when you're first starting to be a 

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clinician is how do you not take the 
catastrophes of your client's home with 

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you?

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And the answer to that is because it's 
immoral to.

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They're not your problems,
their,

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their problems,
like their,

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their,
their life.

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You know,
your problems are your life.

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You don't want to solve someone else's 
problems for them because you take away 

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the deep meaning.
That's to be found in having them work 

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through the problems on their own and 
then you steal the credit.

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Well,
I can help you with that.

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It's like,
well,

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yeah,
maybe,

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but I don't help you with the next 
problem.

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Then.
So in any case,

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you sort sort out the problems that are 
right in front of you and you will.

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It will make you grow very,
very rapidly and then you'll be able to 

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sort out more complex problems without 
making them worse.