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The sacrifice of the mother is 
exemplified profoundly by Michelangelo's

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sculpture.
That Pie Ada,

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Mary is Contemplating Her son crucified 
in ruins,

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so that's his body after he's being 
crucified.

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It's her fault.
It was through her.

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He entered the great drama of being.
So what's the meaning of this sculpture?

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It's a great sculpture.
It's just an absolutely unbelievable 

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sculpture.
You just can't believe that someone 

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could exist who could make something up.
Of course it wasn't the only thing 

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Michelangelo made,
right?

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It wasn't like that's it.
It was something he just tossed off in a

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couple of months while he was doing 
other unbelievable things,

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but you know,
it's,

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it's an.
It's an object of contemplation,

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which is why it's integrate cathedral,
integrate city.

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It's an object of contemplation and the 
idea is something like,

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what,
what?

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What's the role of a mother if she's 
awake.

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I had a client come to see me a while 
back,

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not very long ago,
woman in about who's about 30 and trying

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to make decisions about her life.
She was pretty career oriented and so I 

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asked her about,
although maybe having a bit of trouble 

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with their career,
I've seen this many,

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many times,
so this is an amalgam.

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This is a story that's an amalgam and I 
talked to her about the other elements 

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of your life.
It's like,

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Whoa,

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you know,

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there's only five things you do in life,
so you've got your career down,

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you know,
what do you do outside of your career 

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that's meaningful and engaging.
How are things going with your family?

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Could be your family of origin,
your siblings,

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whatever.
Do you have an intimate relationship and

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like what's your plan for your own 
family?

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And apart from those five things,
there's sort of something like get some 

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exercise now and then don't eat too 
badly and try to stay away from the 

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drugs.
You know,

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that,
that kind of the crime that kind of lays

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out life.
And if you miss any of those five things

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or if you do any of those other things 
wrong,

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then you're in trouble and you can get 
away with missing a couple of them.

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But not all of them,
you know.

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And she said something along the lines 
of,

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well,
I'm not sure I should bring a child into

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this world.

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And I thought,
Oh God,

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Christ,
you've got to come up with something 

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better than that.
Such a bloody cliche,

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which is what I told her.
I said,

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you know,
he must've thought that up when you were

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16.
It's like,

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really?
That's your,

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that you can't do any better.
This was a very,

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very smart woman.
It's like creating your unique.

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You can't do any better than that.
It's like,

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yes,
obviously this is a veil of tears and a,

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you know,
a well of suffering and all of that.

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If you asked 30 people who are wondering
about having children,

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why they're wondering,
20 of them will say that.

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And so that tells you how original it 
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It's not original at all.
It's not a thought.

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It's like this little.
It's like a,

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it's like a,
it's a meme or something that lives in 

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your mind.
It's not a thought and it's certainly 

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not something.

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It's certainly not something that you 
should just take it face value and say,

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oh,
well I'm not having a family.

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Then it's like,
no,

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no.
You kind of look at that and you 

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criticize it a little bit.
It's like,

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well,
the pop,

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the.
It's the other one.

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That's the other one that's very common.
There's too many people on the planet 

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already.
It's like,

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I really don't like that statement.
It's like,

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just who are you going to ask to leave?
Just how are you going to get them to 

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leave?
You know?

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It's a serious question and who says 
there's too many people?

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What the Hell's wrong with people?
Anyways?

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Sorry,
we're running around ruining the planet.

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Yeah,
so like I think it was the club of Rome 

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who,
who prophesied by the way that there 

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would be so many people on the planet by
the year 2000,

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that there would be widespread 
starvation and they were completely and 

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utterly wrong about that and I think it 
was the club of Rome who either compared

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us to a virus or a cancer on the face of
the planet.

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It's like,
oh,

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really?
That's what you think about people a,

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aren't you something?
Isn't that something to think about?

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Human beings,
viruses and cancer.

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What do you do with viruses and cancer?
Invite them in and make them at home.

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It's like,
no,

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he tried to eradicate them.
If you've got a bloody well,

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watch your metaphors folks,
because it isn't clear that you come up 

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with them or that they run you,
so you better watch him.

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So anyways,
Mary and Mary's the great mother,

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right?
That she's the mother.

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That's what Mary is.
Whether she existed or not is not the 

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point.
She exists,

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at least as a hyper reality.
She exists as the mother.

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Well,
what's the sacrifice of the mother?

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Well,
that's easy.

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If you're a mother and you,
if you're a mother who's worth her salt,

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you offer your son to be destroyed by 
the world.

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That's what you do.
I mean,

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that's what's going to happen,
right?

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He's gonna be born and he's going to 
suffer.

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He's gonna have his trouble in life.
He's going to have his illnesses.

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He's going to face his failures and 
catastrophes and he's going to die.

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That's what's going to happen.
And if you're awake,

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you know that,
and then you say,

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well,
perhaps he will live in a way that will 

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justify that,
and then you try to have that happen and

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that's what makes you worthy of a statue
like that.

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But still the sacrifice of the mother.
Is it right to bring a baby into this 

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terrible world?

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Well,
every woman asked yourself that 

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question.
Some say no.

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And they have the reasons Mary answers 
yes.

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Voluntarily.
Mary is the archetype of the woman who 

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answers yes to life voluntarily.
That's what that image means.

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And not because she's blind,
she knows what's going to happen.

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And so she's the archetipal 
representation of the woman who says yes

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to life knowing full well what 
[inaudible] life is not naive,

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not someone who got pregnant in the 
backseat of the 1957 Chevy,

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you know,
in one,

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in a,
one night of,

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of,
of,

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of half drunk idiocy.
Not that,

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but consciously,
consciously knowing what's to come and 

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then also allows it to happen.
Because that's another thing that's a 

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testament to the courage of mothers.
And My mother was good at this.

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My mother's a very agreeable person too,
agreeable for her own good,

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but that's what happens if you're 
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if for your own good.
That's the definition of agreeable.

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And so she's a nice person and still is.
Luckily she's still alive and we've had 

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a very good relationship and I have 
always been able to make her laugh,

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which is,
which is a good thing.

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And,
but she was tough cookie.

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That woman,
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if,
if,

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uh,

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remember once she came across,
I was out playing in this spec baseball 

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diamond,
little diamond in the empty lot.

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Really in this little town I grew up in.
I was about 10 and she walked by.

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I was there with a bunch of my friends 
and I was about to have a fistfight with

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this little tough kid that I hung around
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And there were half girls on the team 
and the fistfight had some relationship 

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to status maneuvering,
you know,

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in relationship to that.
Anyways,

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we're going to have a fight.
And my mum walked by,

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she took a look and I could see from her
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about to happen and she looked for a 
second and then she walked by and I 

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thought,
Whoa,

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good work mom.
No kidding.

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Hey.
It's like last bloody thing I needed at 

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that moment was for her to come charge 
it up and say,

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you boys aren't planning to have a 
fight,

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are you?
It's like,

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well yeah mom,
where we're actually planning to have a 

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fight and now that you came and 
intervened.

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I actually lost before the God damn 
thing even started.

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So two thumbs up for mum.
She was also the person that said 

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because I had some trouble with my dad 
when I was a kid,

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adolescent,
he had some trouble with me.

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So you know,
it was 50 slash 50.

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That's for now,
it's probably 70 slash 30 with me on the

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70 end of that being the trouble.
And anyways,

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I left home when I was about 17 and she 
said something really interesting when I

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left home.
She said it was too good at home.

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You'd never leave.
I thought,

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hey mom,
that's pretty good,

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you know,
for,

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for an agreeable person,
you've got a real spine man.

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So that was pretty good.

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So.

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So you know,
mother that says this,

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the mother is the person who also says,
get out there,

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take your God damn lumps because you're 
tough enough so that you can handle it.

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She doesn't say you just stayed down 
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because the world is unfair and treating
you badly and your suffering is too 

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much.
She says,

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yeah,
there's a lot of suffering out there,

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but you're a hell of a lot tougher than 
you think you are.

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So.