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Ask and it shall be given you seek and 
you shall find knock and it shall be 

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opened unto you for everyone that asks,
receives and he that seeketh findeth and

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to him that knocks it shall be opened.
That sounded pretty optimistic again,

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but,
but again,

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I think it's a description of the 
structure of existential reality and and

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by,
by which I mean

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when I'm in my clinical practice and I 
observe and this is also the case with 

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my students,
is let's say people's lives aren't what 

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they would like them to be.
And so then you ask why?

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Well,
forget about tragedy and catastrophe 

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because that's self evident and we're 
not going to discuss that.

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Although the degree to which you bring 
about your own tragedy is always 

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indeterminant.
But I would never say that every 

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terrible thing that is visited on a 
person is something they deserved.

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I think that that's a very dangerous 
presupposition,

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especially because everyone gets sick 
and everyone dies,

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but one of the main reasons that people 
don't get what they want is because they

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don't actually figure out what it is and
the probability that you're going to 

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get.
What would be good for you,

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let's say,
which would even be better than what you

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want,
right?

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Because you know,
you might be wrong about what you want 

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easily,
but maybe you could get.

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What would really be good for you?
Well,

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why don't you.
Well,

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because you don't try.
You don't think,

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okay,

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here's what I would like if I could have
it and I don't mean I don't mean in a 

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way that you manipulate the world to 
force it to deliver you good for status 

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or something like that.
That isn't what I mean.

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I mean something like imagine that you 
were taking care of yourself like you 

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were someone you actually cared for and 
then you thought,

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okay,
I am caring for this person.

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I would like things to go as well for 
them as possible.

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What would their life have to be like in
order for that to be the case where 

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people don't do that?
They don't sit down and think,

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all right,
do you know?

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Let's,
let's figure it out.

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You're,
you've got a life.

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It's hard.
Obviously.

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It's like three years from now you can 
have what you need.

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You got to be careful about it.
You can't have everything you can have,

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what would be good for you,
but you have to figure out what it is 

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and then you have to aim at it.

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Well,
my experience with people is been as if 

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they figure out what it is that would be
good for them and then they aim at it.

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Then they get it and it's strange 
because they don't ness.

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It's a strange thing.
It's not quite that simple because you 

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know,
you may formulate an idea about what 

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would be good for you and then you take 
10 steps towards that and you find out 

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that your formulation was a bit off and 
so you have to reformulate your goal.

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So you're kind of going like this as you
move towards the goal.

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But a huge part of the reason that 
people fail is because they don't ever 

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set up the criteria for success.
And so since success is a very narrow 

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line and very unlikely,
the probability that you're going to 

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stumble it randomly is zero.
And so if there's a proposition here in 

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the proposition is if you actually want 
something,

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you can have it now,
the question then would be,

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well,
what do you mean by actually want?

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And the answer is that you reorient your
life in every possible way to make the 

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probability that that will occur as 
certain as possible.

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And that's a sacrificial idea,
right?

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It's like you don't get everything,
obviously you obviously,

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but maybe you can have what you need and
maybe all you have to do to get it is 

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ask,
but asking isn't a whim or,

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or today's wish.
It's like you have to be deadly serious 

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about it.
You have to think,

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okay,
I'm taking stock of myself and if I was 

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going to live properly in the world and 
I was going to set myself up such that 

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being would justify itself in my 
estimation.

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And I don't mean as a harsh judge 
exactly what is it that I would aim at?

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Well,
one of the things I've found is that in 

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test of this theory,
let's say you could try this.

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This is a form of prayer knocking.
Sit on your bed one day and ask 

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yourself,
what's what remarkably stupid things am 

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I doing on a regular basis to absolutely
screw up my life,

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and if you actually asked that question,
but you have to want to know the answer,

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right,
because that's actually what asking the 

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question means.
It doesn't mean just mouthing the words.

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It means you have to decide that you 
want to know.

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You'll figure that out so fast.
It'll make your hair curl,

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you'll you.
It's as if young thought about this,

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he saw it.
He thought that people had two poles of 

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consciousness in one was the individual 
consciousness that we each identify 

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within.
The other was something he called the 

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self and the self is the.
You might think about it as the divine 

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within.
That's close enough approximation.

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It's the universal part of your 
consciousness.

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It's your conscience.
That's another way of thinking about it.

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Whatever your conscience is,
but it's something that you can consult.

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It's like the socratic daymond socrates 
said that the thing that made him 

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different than everyone else in Greece 
was that he consulted his demon,

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his genius.
He asked himself how it was that he 

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should conduct himself in the world,
and then he did that,

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whatever it was,
he didn't try to force a solution.

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You know,
he didn't try to force a solution.

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Selfishly,
he asked,

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I'm going to manifest myself in the best
possible manner in the world.

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I would like to do that.
What would that be?

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While you're perfectly capable of 
thinking,

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God only knows how you're perfectly 
capable of immense feats of imagination 

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and dreams and fantasies,
God only knows how you do all of that.

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What would happen if you consulted 
yourself about the best possible outcome

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for you?
You might get an answer.

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Well,
that's what this proposition is.