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The next best predictor of lifetime 
success is conscientiousness,

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while so and of the,
of the two aspects of conscientiousness 

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say orderliness and industriousness.
The better predictor is industriousness.

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So the question is,
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what can you do about your 
industriousness?

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And the answer to that is,
well that's kind of rough too because 

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there's a strong genetic component,
but you can work on micro habits with 

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regards to your conscientiousness and I 
think the best micro habits.

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This is partly to do with this future 
authoring program processes.

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I think the best thing you can do with 
regards to your conscientiousness is to 

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set up some aims for yourself.
Goals that you actually value and the 

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future authoring program helps people do
that and basically it does a situational

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analysis of it helps you do a 
situational analysis of your life more 

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than a psychological analysis I would 
say.

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And so the questions are something like,
well,

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alright,
you're going to have to put some effort 

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into your life and you need to be 
motivated to do that.

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And so what are the potential sources of
motivation?

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You could think about them in the big 
five manner.

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If you're extroverted,
you want friends,

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if you're agreeable,
you want an intimate relationship.

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If you're disagreeable,
you want to win competitions.

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If you're open,
you want to engage in creative activity.

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If you're high in neuroticism,
you want security.

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Okay?
So those are all sources of potential 

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motivation that you could draw on that 
you could tailor to your own,

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you know,
your own personality.

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But then there are dimensions that you 
want to consider your life across.

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And so we ask people about,
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you know,
if you could have your life the way you 

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wanted it in three to five years,
if you were taking care of yourself 

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properly,
you know,

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what would you want from your 
friendships?

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What would you want from your intimate 
relationship?

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How would you like to structure your 
family?

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What do you want for your career?
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how are you going to use your time 
outside of your job and how are you 

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going to regulate your mental,
physical,

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mental,
and physical health,

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and maybe also your drug and alcohol 
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Because that's,
that's a good place to Auger down,

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you know,
because alcoholism,

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for example,
wipes out,

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you know,
five to 10 percent of people,

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so you want to keep that under control 
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and then so maybe you know,
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you develop a vision of what your life,
what you would like your life to be and 

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that associates the so the goal,
once the goal is established and then 

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you break down the goal into micro 
processes that you could implement the 

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microprocesses become rewarding in 
proportion in relation to there a causal

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association with the goal and that 
tangles in your,

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your incentive reward system.

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We talked about the dopaminergic 
incentive reward system and that's the 

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thing that keeps you moving forward and 
the way it works is that it works better

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if it produces positive emotion.
When it can see you moving towards a 

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valued goal,
okay,

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well what's the implication of that?
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otherwise you can't get any positive 
motivation working out and so the more 

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valuable the goal in principle,
the more the micro processes associated 

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with that goal start to take on a 
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And so what that means is while you get 
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about the day,
you're ready to go,

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and so as far as I can tell,
what you do is you specify your longterm

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ideal.
Maybe you also specify a place you want 

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to stay the hell away from so that 
you're terrified to fail as well as 

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excited about succeeding.

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Because that's also useful.
You specify your goal.

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You do that,
you do that in some sense as a unique 

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individual.
You want.

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You want to specify goals that make you 
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Oh,
if that could happen as a consequence of

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my efforts,
it would clearly be worthwhile.

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Because the question always is,
why do something?

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Because doing nothing is easy.
You just sit there and you don't do 

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anything that's real easy.
The question is why would you ever do 

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anything?
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you've determined by some means that 
it's worthwhile.

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And then the next question might be,
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where should you look for worthwhile 
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And one would be while you can consult 
your own temperament,

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and the other would be,
while you kind of look at how,

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look at what it is that people accrue 
that's valuable across the lifespan.

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Look,
look what you do,

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a structural analysis of the 
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already did that.

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You need a family,
you need friends,

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like you don't need to have all of these
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but you better have most of them.
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friends,
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educational goals,
plans for time outside of work,

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attention to your mental and physical 
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etc.
You know those are,

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that's what life is about.
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things,
well then all you've got left is misery 

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and suffering.
So that's,

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that's a bad,
that's a bad deal for you.

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So,
so once you,

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once you set up that goal structure,
let's say,

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and that's really in many,
in many ways,

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that's what you should be doing at 
universities is that's exactly what you 

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should be doing,
is trying to figure out who it is that 

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you're trying to be.
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And you aim at that and then use 
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building that person that you want to 
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And and I really mean want to be.
I don't mean should be even those 

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things.
Those things are going to overlap and 

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it's important to distinguish between 
those because that's partly,

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and this is back down to the micro 
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So I started saying,
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you're going to try to make yourself 
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Okay?
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specify your damn goals because how are 
you going to hit something if you don't 

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know what it is that isn't going to 
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And often people won't specify their 
goals too because they don't like to 

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specify conditions for failure.
So if you keep yourself all vague and 

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foggy,
which is real easy because that's just a

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matter of not doing as well,
then you don't know when you fail.

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And people might say,
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I really don't want to know when I fail 
because that's painful,

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so I'll keep myself blind about when I 
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ThAt's fine,
except you'll fail all the time.

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Then you just won't know it until you 
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that can easily happen by the time 
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so,
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that happen.
So that's willful blindness,

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right?
You could have known but you chose not 

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to.
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So once you get your goal structure set 
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you think,
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if I could have this life looks like 
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fact that it's going to be,
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anxiety provoking and threatening and 
there's going to be some suffering and 

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loss involved in all of that.
Obviously the goal is to have a vision 

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for your life such that all things 
considered that justifies your effort.

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Okay,
so then what do you do?

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Well then then you turn down to the 
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It's like,
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well this is what I'm aiming for.

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How does that instantiate itself day to 
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week to week,
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And that's where something like a 
schedule can be unbelievably useful.

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google calendar,
it's like make a damn schedule and stick

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to it.
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So what's the rule with the schedule?
It's not a bloody prison.

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That's the first thing that people do 
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He said,
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I don't like to follow a schedule.
It was like,

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well,
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up?
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I,
I have to do this.

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Then I have to do this.
Then I have to do this,

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and then I just go play video games 
because who wants to do all these things

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that I have to do?
It's like wrong.

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Set the damn schedule up so that you 
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That's the trick.
It's like,

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okay,
I've got tomorrow.

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If I was going to set it up so it was 
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practically speaking,
what would it look like?

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Well then you schedule that and 
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responsibility that's going to go along 
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one of the things that you're going to 
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day,
you're not in worse shape than you were 

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at the beginning of the day,
right?

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Because that's a stupid day.
If you have a bunch of thoSe in a row,

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you just dig,
dig yourself a hole and then you bury 

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yourself in.
It's like,

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sorry,
that's just not a good strategy,

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bad strategy.
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be responsibility and obligation or 
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depending on how far behind you are,
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You can ask yourself,
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well I've got these responsibilities.
I have to schedule the damn things in.

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What's the right ratio of responsibility
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And you can ask yourself that just like 
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working for you.

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It'S like,
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you got to work tomorrow.
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so I want you to work tomorrow.
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okay,
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that makes it likely that I'll work for 
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While you could ask yourself that,
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maybe you do an hour of of 
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game for 15 minutes.
I don't know,

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whatever turns your crank man,
but you know,

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you have to negotiate with yourself and 
not tyrannized yourself.

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Like you're negotiating with someone 
that you care for,

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that you would like to be productive and
have a good life,

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and that's how you make the schedule.
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and then you look at the day and you 
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well,
if I had that day,

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that'd be good.
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You know,
and you,

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you're useless and horrible,
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about 70 percent accuracy,
but that beats the hell out of zero.

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Right?
And if you hit it even with 50 percent 

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accuracy,
another rule is well,

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aim for 51 percent the next week or 50 
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because you're,
you're going to hit that position where 

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things start to loop back positively in 
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so that's one way that you can work on 
your conscientiousness is a plan a life 

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you'd like to have and you do that 
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That's more or less rescuing your father
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But the way other way you do that is by 
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yourself about as if you don't really 
know who you are,

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because you know what you're like.
You won't do what you're told,

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you won't do what you tell yourself to 
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You must have noticed that it's like 
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and both of those work for you.

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You don't know what you want to do.
And then when you tell yourself what to 

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do,
you don't do it anyways.

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You should fire yourself and find 
someone else to beat.

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But,
but you know what?

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My point is that you have to understand 
that you're not your own servant,

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so to speak.
You're someone that you have to 

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negotiate with and someone that you want
to present the opportunity of having a 

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good life too.
And that's hard for people because they 

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don't like themselves very much.
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they're always like cracking the whip 
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the whip and then procrastinating.
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god,
it's so boring and such a pathetic way 

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of spending your time.
And you know what that's like because 

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you probably waste like six hours a day 
and I think we did an economic 

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calculation about that awhile back,
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Your time is probably worth 50 bucks an 
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something like that.
I mean,

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you're not getting paid that now,
but you're young.

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And so this is investment time and what 
you do now is going to multiply its 

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effects in the future.
so,

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so let's say it's 50 bucks an hour,
which is perfectly reasonable.

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So if you waste six hours a day and you 
are,

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then you're wasting about $2,000
a week or about $100,000

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a year.
So like go ahead.

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But that's what it's costing you every 
hour.

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And you need to know what your damn time
is worth.

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So let's say it's not 50 bucks,
it's 30,

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whatever.
Maybe it's 100,

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it's somewhere in that range.
One of the things you should be asking 

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yourself is when you spend an hour was 
that,

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well,
what have I paid someone 50 bucks to 

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have had that hour?
And if the answer is no,

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it's like,
well,

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maybe you should do something else with 
your time.

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And it depends on whether or not you 
think that your time is worthwhile.

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But the funny thing about not assuming 
that is if you assume your time isn't 

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worthwhile,
what happens is you don't just sit 

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around sort of randomly in a state of 
responsibility list bliss.

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What you do is you suffer existentially.
And so that seems like a stupid 

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solution.